And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.6. For your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad.You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
Always see the best in her Focus only on what you love. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged.If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love.Don’t worry about money Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.19. Forgive immediately..focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. Gerald Rogers’ article stirred a wide variety of feelings among people across the globe. We read letters from women in Malaysia comforting women in England.
The unity and compassion among people which this article brought forth was a beautiful experience to witness. One common idea reverberated among many of the healthy responses: If we make the conscious decision to daily place our spouse’s desires and needs above our own, and that’s reciprocated, the marriage will succeed. The advice in this article can be applied to both genders. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it.get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed.You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them…Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.16. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time. Truth is, If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love.Be fully transparent If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds…Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be. Never stop growing together The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back.