For straight couples, shared biological offspring carry both parents’ genes, so the risk of a man being duped into raising some other guy’s kid while thinking that he’s “investing” in his own biological child was, and still is, a major adaptive problem for human males.By contrast, children may be adopted together by a gay couple or come from surrogacy arrangements or previous relationships, but in no case can the partners have an equal genetic investment in the child that's greater than zero.So if my partner cheats on me with another man, or my lesbian friend’s partner cheats on her with another woman, sure, it would probably sting.
(Referencing "Allah" or "Jesus" is OK.)Those are just some of the fascinating results compiled by online dating site Ok after crunching numbers on 500,000 first contacts between singles.The results of the online dating study, published Monday on Ok Cupid's Ok Trends blog, supply would-be romantics with a handful of specific dos and don'ts for navigating the stormy waters of virtual romance.On the one hand, I’d no doubt be irritated by my very religious wife’s supernatural beliefs.On the other hand, the very fact that she believes strongly in some divinely imposed morality should influence her behavior behind my back.Making a positive first impression on a potential mate can be as easy as dropping the words "zombie" or "atheist" into your opening salvo when using an online dating site.
Making spelling errors, being too forward, slipping into sloppy internet slang or simply mentioning "God" can doom your chances for making that crucial first connection.
Given that 95 percent of married couples with children report some religious affiliation, this empirical lacuna is sadly par for the course; from a scientific perspective, we know very little about atheist behavior and psychology in general.
—the extent to which married couples share the same religious beliefs and participate jointly in religious practices—is reliably, and inversely, associated with relationship discord.
Sociologist Scott Myers hits the nail on the head here, I think: “Religious homogamy is a couple-based trait that optimizes marital companionship by reducing the need for a spouse to search for similar views outside the marriage.” Again, although we don’t have any real data to go on, this should hold true for homogamous atheist couples, too.
And that’s why I’m not Even without religion, the most compatible couples will inevitably butt heads over everyday things like raising children, the division of household labor, major financial decisions, and work responsibilities.
A shoulder-shrugging agnostic or lukewarm “spiritual but not religious” person, for instance, would probably be able to tolerate an atheist spouse better than a dead-set Muslim could ever hope to do.