So, you've just met someone and after a few dates, you find out that he is not divorced yet. It is better to break it off in the beginning before feelings develop.
If you stay and get involved with him, it will be hard to walk away.
The first question that must be answered is: Why is he getting a divorce and what is the timeline?This is important and he will be talking about it, so listen with a keen intensity when he does.Although the best advice is to take it as slow as possible, things often speed up without us realizing it, as love can be the natural state of things and seem so easy when it appears.With the "slow it down warning" emblazoned on the relationship, let's look at the possible pitfalls your man presents.Poverty A failed marriage usually costs a man much more than a woman.
Will he have to start paying for 2 apartments now that they are separated? An angry or unfair woman can really clean a man out when it comes to a divorce.She might want to destroy him financially (and hopefully ruin your relationship too). Do not continue to see him for an innocent dinner or coffee.You are not helping yourself by getting emotionally attached to him. If it is meant to be then you will be together when his divorce is final.Of course, in his defense, she may have put on a good act and left him as a devious surprise to maximize his pain and to give her a stronger position in the divorce proceedings.Find out what you can about the timeline of how and why it ended. In his discussions of his divorce, you should be able to see her side of the story at least a little and observe the habits of his that angered her.He is still married and needs to complete that phase of his life before he can move on to the next.