Those attempts at manipulation are not cute or endearing; they should be interpreted as the red flags that they are.
I came home from work one day to the electric turned off in my apartment.I had absolutely no idea what was wrong or why this happened.He doesn't want you; not only does he want a mirror, but he also wants a woman who is sure to chase her tail in circles trying to please him at all costs, no matter how high. If he says he's going to call you at 7 pm on a Tuesday, but he does not do so until 10 pm the following day (or later), he is likely doing it on purpose.He wants you to be thinking about all of the possible reasons why he's not contacting you when he said he would.In my 20s straight through to my early 30s, I learned a great deal about relationships.
And there are many, many subtle cues of abuse that I either missed or blatantly ignored.
This is a guy who is used to being given opportunities to talk his way out of situations.
He's the guy who does not leave your dorm/apartment/home when you've asked him to. He's the guy who is not honest about who his friends are. He's the guy who goes out of his way to say and do things that annoy you.
Have you ever apologized for your "role" in his behavior? Not only has he behaved poorly, but he has found a way to manipulate you into believing that his behavior is, was, and will continue to be your fault.
When you ask him a question about his intentions, does he stutter? It takes approximately zero seconds to communicate the truth.
It takes a little longer than that to come up with a passable lie or excuse.