Here’s what you do: treat the kid like another adult and engage in conversation and bonding the way you would if you were stuck in a house with random guy or girl.Take it slow and be yourself, help out when you can, or when you’re asked, and the number one thing is to be good to their mom.A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.
You do not what to appear as if you are talking the kid up in order to score panty points with his/her momma.It’s very obvious when we do this and kids read that stuff immediately.But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.And the truth is that most of them are completely creeped out at the prospect of dating a guy who was alive when JFK was alive. Now in my mid 40’s though, the idea of dating someone in their 60’s does seem like a big difference in terms of where we each are in life. Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation.
Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially.Time creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications – mortgage, kids, career, etc.All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.Don’t go turning on the young man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him.Don’t go talking about the girl’s favorite band as if you listen to it, because she probably knows that you don’t and you will look like a fool trying to get in.Harrison Ford being an exception for me as well though, I have to say.