Knowing that he’s willing to give and take will show that he’s more serious about getting to know who I am.”-Alicia, 30, Philadelphia“I don’t learn all that much about Brad, but he seems cautiously optimistic and interested. A.“I think this is a good format for an introductory email, but this one is bland.
The Joseph question is really broad; he should mention something specific about the show.I might respond; I like to give people chances.”-Kendra, 30, New York, New York The verdict: Brad has a winning format and identifies with the profilee’s passions, but our panel agrees that he should offer up some specifics.That way, she’ll know that when they’re sharing a bottle of wine after a show, they’ll be engaged in a lively discussion. Your words about supportiveness struck a chord, as did some of the other things you wrote.Real-life result: Brad estimates a 30-40% response rate to this kind of email. I’m 36 and am a freelance writer covering mainly health, psychology, nonprofit management and, lately, nanotechnology.But when it comes to acting on that statement, most of them don’t. In fact, I think I’m posting this on JDaters Anonymous.
I could be making a vast generalization, but to an extent, this doesn’t matter. I’d be more inclined to respond if his email was more upbeat.”-Alicia, 30, Philadelphia“All guys should avoid any reference to ‘the little man.’ Otherwise, Eric gets points for humor, but if he’d weep if everything in my profile wasn’t entirely true, I’d be afraid what he’d do if I turned him down for a second date.”-Christine, 35, Los Angeles, CA“I like the intelligence it shows, but it feels like he takes the joke too far.I’m all for curled-up-in-fetal-position jokes, but he should quickly move on to commenting on something else in her profile.”-Kendra, 30, New York, New York The verdict: Eric gets kudos for originality and sense of humor.Some of her ‘I talked my way out of a police station’ moments were interesting, but I don’t need to know that she has mended relationships with family members.I would probably reply to her, but I would already have a preconception of her as a little eager.”-Whit, 25, Portland, METhe verdict: Our panel dug Kim’s whimsical, self-deprecating tone, but most agreed that she doesn’t need to give that much information in the first email. Well I’m a little out of your height range, but perhaps us seeing eye to eye wouldn’t be so bad.So please tell me it’s true before he makes me do something drastic, and I’ve already been warned that if there are any more incidents like the Swan Lake monkey-banana night of last week I’ll be banned from the store.-Eric The feedback:“This email is creative, maybe too cute. ’ and make it a statement instead: ‘I really find it cool that you enjoy reading Nabokov...’ And instead of ‘The little man that runs my brain....,’ I would simply say, ‘How could I not respond?