This refers to parts of your conversation where you are discovering if who you have just met has what you are looking for.
Also, I would ask general questions like how long she had been online dating, if she had any success, if she gets a lot of contacts, and other non-intrusive conversations.Aside from making excellent small-talk, these conversations also humanize you.You know qualities you are hoping to find in someone else and many of your topics should be used to discover if your date has these qualities. I’ll break down the first date conversations into three categories and discuss each.At the same time, you can’t put your date “on trial” so you need to mix your conversations up between discovery, simple light-hearted small-talk, and sharing about yourself. However, any good date won’t require as much thinking as this information suggests.I found this made for excellent small-talk and I also found that once I started, my dates had stories that they were excited to share.
There were frequently “My dates have been worse than yours” competitions that were both friendly and fun.
For all my shyness, I never found it very difficult to have conversations on a first date.
It isn’t that I gained confidence, I just planned ahead.
These two approaches worked very well together ensuring that (at least on first dates) there were never any awkward pauses.
The topics you choose should not solely be there to fill in empty space.
Just be careful not to turn fun conversation into a complaint-fest.