In the marvelously titled (Current), writer Dan Slater tracks a phenomenon that started in 1965 with "computer dating"—essentially a digital compatibility test, dreamed up by two lovelorn Harvard undergrads desperate to meet Radcliffe girls—and mushroomed into an estimated billion a year industry.According to Slater, it's one of the few business models in which clients' failures are the company's win—the longer we seek, the more money they make.
"If someone said to you 'I'm uncomplicated, generally in a happy mood, and I like to do stuff,' you'd want to hang out with him or her, right?
" Webb found that the most successful profiles were purposefully casual, under 500 words, and just detailed enough—specific, but not to the point of alienating someone ("like" HBO dramas, but don't zero in on ). Davis cites psychological studies that say the mind can easily grasp groups of three: "So stick to three interests, three words to describe your ideal match, or three favorite movies." Webb advises against mentioning your job, using foreign words, or referring to yourself in the third person.
At 30, after a breakup that involved spotting her boyfriend draped around another woman, digital strategist Amy Webb decided to try meeting men online.
And she did: On JDate, Match.com, and e Harmony, she met guys who were six inches shorter or 30 pounds heavier than advertised; who picked expensive restaurants and passed the check to her; and who told her, mid drink, that they were married.
At first, Webb thought that women who used opening lines such as "I'm a fun-loving girl that enjoys…" and "I'm a laid-back girl who wants…" were dumbing down.
But such lightweight openers are disarming, approachable.Make no mistake — older women are looking for men, not boys. Nothing is more attractive to her than a young guy who can fill her needs as a man and in the sack. Part of the turn-on of an older woman is her intellect and accomplishments.But you’re in luck — she’s going to be attracted to you before you even open your mouth. It’s going to end eventually, so don’t talk about a relationship with her. Don’t talk about your feelings and emotions and how you’re falling for her unless she does it first. She’s looking to enjoy herself because most of the men in her age range are not in the physical shape she desires and are already broken and destroyed. In order to succeed, she probably had to be smarter than the men around her.You need to show her you’re mature and not some school boy just looking for a quick sexual experience to run and tell your friends about. You need to be able to hold your end of a conversation.You don’t need to tell her you’re older than your years, but you do need to act like a man. Yes, she wants you to tell her how hot she is, but she also wants to talk to you over dinner, during a walk, or lying in bed after you’ve made love.To that end, Webb shot all of her pictures at the fabled predusk "golden hour."4.