I want to hurt him like he hurt me, but I don't want to lose him. —Steamed Submit Your Own Question to a Therapist Feeling angry is an incredibly natural response to the feelings of betrayal that come from infidelity. Anger is a powerful emotion, and it can mask other feelings. Anger may feel like a safer way to manage your pain, but it will slow your healing.Admitting and confronting the pain behind the anger is essential, and it requires vulnerability—which is hard when you are dealing with this kind of breach of trust. I wonder, though, what it is you might need from your husband to help you with that healing.How do I stop being so angry after my husband had an affair?
Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding any mental health symptom or medical condition.Never disregard professional psychological or medical advice nor delay in seeking professional advice or treatment because of something you have read on Good Before his trips, Lynch communicated online with individuals in the Philippines in order to locate children to sexually exploit.Lynch reportedly produced child pornography of at least three Filipino children on these visits. He was arrested in San Francisco attempting to board a flight to the Philippines in December 2016.I’m guessing that right now apologetic words and acts of contrition are not helping you let go and move on.
Often, when we have been hurt, we need to feel that the other person truly understands the pain we are experiencing and gets how serious the emotional pain and betrayal really are.You cannot go back to the place you were before, and wishing for that is going to keep you stuck in this place of pain and, yes, anger.Best of luck, Erika Erika Myers, MS, MEd, LPC, NCC, is a licensed psychotherapist and former educator specializing in working with families in transition (often due to separation or divorce) as well as individuals seeking support with relationship issues, parenting, depression, anxiety, grief/loss/bereavement, and managing major life changes.Lynch traveled to the Philippines regularly between 20 to have sex with children, according to testimony and evidence presented at trial.During those trips, he would make recordings of the abuse.During a simultaneous search of his home in Venice, Florida, FBI agents located dozens of self-produced images and videos of child pornography from his trips.