If you’re sending a message, the recipient already knows you’ve looked at their pictures and find them attractive.
) Does her profile say she’s a lesbian and you’re a straight guy with a weakness for Justin Bieber haircuts?Sorry pal, but she’s not gonna be into you, no matter how hard her floppy hair makes you.There are lots of reasons why someone may sign into OK Cupid, check their messages, and not message you back. Or, they might be checking their inbox quickly, and will respond later. But the quickest way to get yourself classified as a psycho is to message someone more than once without getting a reply. Repeat messaging says, “I am a creep with boundary issues.” And sure, there’s someone out there for everyone, but you will widen your dating pool by not being a creep with boundary issues.Yes, we’re all animals here and yes, dating is initially about physical attraction, but there has to be something more to make a relationship (or even a not-totally-painful date) work out.The beauty of internet dating is that we all get to specify what we want.
Respect that and don’t waste anyone’s time – including your own.
This is how to send a semi-decent online dating message in nine easy steps.
A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel.
You would think “don't be a dick” would be obvious, but there are apparently legions of people (mostly dudes) who adopt crappy pick-up artist tactics in their online dating lives, and think they might get lucky by sending vaguely (or blatantly) insulting messages to unsuspecting recipients (negging is actually a thing! Is there some low-self-esteem lady out there who might respond to a message about how ugly she is?
Sure, maybe, but the odds are slim — and since this is the internet, even women who have been strongly socialized to be nice to cretins in bars are able to hit the delete key.
Online dating: It is not that hard, and yet so many people make it so hard.