This is a page I have wanted to write for a long time because it is SUCH an important topic, and because it is the issue I get the most questions and requests about.
For example, some medications cause weight gain and loss of libido.
This can be difficult for the other person who finds themselves in a relationship with a bipolar partner who is disinterested in sex and different physically to the person they were first attracted to.
It is not a good idea to persist in a relationship with a bipolar spouse who will not actively seek treatment, comply with their medication regime, and work at getting and staying well.
If sexual promiscuity has been part of their manic behavior, consider using a condom to protect yourself from STDs, at least until you are sure your bipolar partner is stable, and get tested for STDs, including HIV/AIDS.
Sadly, too few people yet realize bipolar cheating is one of the most typical bipolar symptoms of all.
My own bipolar infidelity destroyed my relationship, my finances, my self-respect, my happiness, my peace of mind, and my entire sense of self, so I hope there will be readers who can benefit from my mistakes.
Also keep an eye on joint finances and consider how to restrict your partner’s access to money, and also how to avoid liability for any debts they incur – it is not uncommon for someone on a manic spree of bipolar hypersexuality to destroy their finances in order to have sex.
Every day remind yourself: – the infidelity was not my fault – the infidelity resulted from my partner’s bipolar mania – they made a terrible choice fueled by hypersexuality, impulsiveness and impaired decision making ability – you are loveable, desirable and deserve better – your partner MUST actively work at avoiding further manic episodes for you to even consider a second chance – you have options and can make decisions in your own best interests and those of your children – you can heal from this as an individual.
You need to know if your partner was on medication at the time and look for all the other signs of a manic episode.
Talking to a professional could be very helpful here.
Given the right attitude and treatment, it may also be possible for your partner to heal, and to heal your relationship. Sometimes it is not the bipolar partner who strays.